By Jackie White
When did you begin to fear your own life? What huh?, You are thinking what could I possibly be talking about? I would venture to say that you have been chugging along in life and fear has been driving the bus. But know, it’s not just you! It’s all of us. Fear has a way of creeping in and stealing our dreams.
How does it happen? First of all, we grow up. Kids aren’t afraid to go for it. A story I recently heard was a little girl who was drawing a picture of God. The adult said to her “No one knows what God looks like, so how can you draw him?” The little girl said “They will when I am done!” That’s confidence. That’s no fear.
As we get older we start to experience failure or disapproval from others and Fear sticks his foot in the door. With every subsequent failure, Fear begins to chip away at you. Before you realize it, Fear has stepped in front of the doorway to your dreams. He is blocking you! Wait – how did that happen? You didn’t even see it coming! He has been stealthily building a wall that has not only blocked you from your dreams, it’s pushing you further away every day. Are you going to keep taking it? Come on, I know your tougher than that!
What’s the crux of all of this? Another F word: Failure! Failure is Fear’s best friend. Together they want to obliterate all that you have ever wanted to be. Ugh, sucker punch to the back! I bet you didn’t realize these two were in cahoots! Well, they are and they are really good at sneaking up on you.
Ok, Let’s talk about Failure. How did Failure become so bad, because to be honest Failure is actually good. Where did all this start? Well, likely in school. Remember when you didn’t pass a test and you would get a big fat F? Remember that sinking feeling? I distinctly remember getting a very large “Thumbs Down” image on my 3rd grade math papers. That year Fear crept in and convinced me I was “bad at math”. Still to this day, I struggle with math being my friend. Unfortunately, our schools don’t reward failure as they should.
I bet you are thinking, why reward failure? Well, Failure is proof you are trying! The road to success is paved in Failure! Do you really think that you should succeed at everything the first time you try it? Nope, that’s not the way it works. Failure helps you know what not to do Next Time, but that’s the key, you must have a Next Time.
So. when you work with Failure, you’ll find he’s not that bad and he is especially helpful when you follow up with Next Time or Try Again. Those guys are the key to beating Fear!
Let’s get back to the doorway to your dreams. You get one chance at this life and darn it, you need to stand up to Fear! You can make your dreams and goals for life come true. Face Fear. Redefine Failure and meet your new friends Next Time and Try Again. Keep pushing through and Fear will fall and you will succeed. Be persistent and relentless and fight to get back that life you once dreamed about! It’s all up to you!
How to Face Fear
1) Visualize what it will look like when you are successfully moving through Fear
2) Visualize yourself as unafraid of Fear
3) Take action towards your dream/Practice failing (remember failing isn’t bad!)
4) Join our FREE group Project Big Bad Wolf. Start Here with No Fear for Next Year.
There you have it. You have now recognized the enemy of all dreams. You can face this and beat it! I know you can! I am here cheering you on! You can do it! Now, prove it to yourself and go do it!
Jackie White has been writing about life and its ups and downs for many years. With a degree in Industrial Psychology and a life-long student of personal development she is intrigued by how each individual chooses to live their life. Jackie feels strongly that truly living your best life is imperative to attaining peace and fulfillment. SoulShine was borne of her desire to inspire and teach others to live their best life. This is her mission and her dream.