I mean we have all heard it before. Just be yourself. Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. There is no one in the world exactly like you. Just be yourself because everyone else is taken.
If that is true, why are so many looking to be someone or something else? Well, there are a lot of reasons why, but honestly the reasons why don’t matter so much as doing something about it. To begin, you must identify that you may not be acting authentically, that you have strayed from the person you know yourself to be inside. After accepting that, it’s time to decide that you are going to do something about it.
Let’s start with the identification part. Some of us know right away that we are definitely not being true to ourselves. We may be working a job that is ill-fitting. We may be putting up a front that isn’t who we really are or we may be very aware we are living a lie. To acknowledge this takes some intestinal fortitude because it’s a hard realization that life isn’t what you meant it to be or wanted it to be
Then there are the group of folks who just aren’t sure if the life they are living is the one they really want. They might be comfortable in the ways of life and it is truly acceptable. In fact, it may be a dream life for some. They may even feel guilty because they shouldn’t be complaining about their circumstances. For these people, they may be feeling a dull ache or a feeling of longing for something else.
In either scenario, the result is that there is a decision to be made. Will you go for it or not? Will you work in the direction of your dreams? Will you cop to the falsities you have been living? It might begin as a painful process, but through pain comes the truth and the life you are supposed to be living.
How to Become YOU
Have Confidence: Stand up straight, breathe in who you are supposed to be by choosing to be confident in who you are. If this feels funny, fake it until you feel it. Eventually you feel really good and proud to be in your own skin.
Don’t Let Others Dull Your Sparkle: It’s likely you were not living authentically because someone else’s opinion about your life was more important than your own. Time for your opinion to matter because YOU matter.
Make a List: Make a list of all the things that you love. Include how you like to spend your time and how you would spend your time if money was no object. Now, pay attention to that list’s direction.
Embrace Your Weirdness: Yes, you heard me right. We ALL are weird in our own weird way! Whatever it is, it doesn’t matter if what you love is “weird”, just embrace your weirdness! YAAASSS!
Get in the Sandbox: Figuratively speaking that is! Think of those things you used to love to do as a kid. Do any of them still resonate? How can you live out that joy today? And hey, if you really want to get into the sandbox again, just do it!
Look Into The Crystal Ball: Look forward to one year from right now, will you be happy in how you are living your life? Is it true to who you are? What about in 5 or 10 more years? If not, then you have to make a change.
Make a Plan and Act on it: once you have identified all that is YOU and who you want to really be, then it’s time to make a plan to get after it. Can it be as easy as changing your hair or how you spend your time? Maybe it’s a bigger decision like changing a job, a partner or the city you live in. Either way, make a plan and way for it to happen. This must be a priority as it is the ticket to your way back to you.
Your prescription for happiness is all about just being you. Let’s let the world famous Dr. Seuss have the last word on this: “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
And that’s the truth. Be You and Shine on!
Erika Fehrenbach Prell is passionate about inspiring and educating, others on their path to complete wellness-mind,body, and soul. This desire led Erika to the helping profession of nursing, and she obtained her Master's Degree as a Nurse Practitioner in 2007. Erika specialized in cardiac surgery, largely influenced by her personal experience with heart disease. While she loved working with this population, her heart's desire has always been to impact lives on a larger scale and from a proactive, not reactive, place. The universe answered when her path crossed with Jackie and SoulShine was born. Erika finally feels she is walking in her purpose and is excited for this journey to unfold.