By Erika Fehrenbach Prell
I want to take a minute to talk about a very serious condition that I, along with many others, suffer from called FOMO. Fear Of Missing Out. Okay, okay, busted...it’s not a real medical condition, just trying to keep it light over here. While you might totally be chuckling at this idea, FOMO is real, and it can bring some real negativity into the lives of those that experience it! Let me explain...
The basics of Fear Of Missing Out, or FOMO, is the feeling that others are having more fun, living better lives, or experiencing something better than you are. It is rooted in envy and jealousy. FOMO can cause you to have low self-esteem or start “not enoughing” yourself. Since you are constantly thinking about what you are missing out on, you are missing what is happening around you. You feel discontent, unhappy, disconnected. Pretty much the opposite of living a fun, inspired, intentional life!
Let’s take a quick assessment to see if you suffer from FOMO by asking yourself the following questions:
If you said yes to at least 2 of these questions, I hate to break it to you, you have a diagnosis of FOMO. The more you said yes to or the more a question resonated with you, the more severe your case is. Do not worry, DreamChaser! As a previous sufferer of FOMO myself, I have 5 ways to start you on your road to recovery.
5 Ways to Start on Your Road to FOMO Recovery:
1. Be present in the moment
The essence of FOMO is thinking about what’s next or what you might be missing, therefore, taking measures to be present is the fastest way to get your FOMO in check! Slow down and pay attention to the here and now. Practicing mindfulness can help with this, finding joy in the here and now rather than what might be.
2. Limit your social media
Social media feeds into your FOMO, big time. Employ strategies to make it a little harder to get sucked into mindlessly scrolling like putting your phone in a different room, remove the apps from your phone home screen, turn off notifications, or employ an app that enforces time limits.
3. Get your priorities in check
Time is our most limited and valuable commodity. Take a moment to understand what you really want and add value to your life versus what you desire, think quality over quantity. Say “no” to those that are not truly a priority, then, and this is crucial, LET IT GO!
4. Adopt an attitude of gratitude
Being grateful for what you have helps combat feelings of not being enough, envy, and jealousy. It’s impossible to feel these negative and life-sucking thoughts when experiencing gratitude.
5. Enjoy the process
The road to FOMO recovery takes time to unlearn bad habits and establish new, better serving ones. As you release the hold FOMO has on your life, you should notice more fun, enjoyment, and less stress. You create lasting moments and memories as well as deeper, more meaningful relationships. Not only do you start enjoying life more but so does everyone else around you!
Know what? Even if you don’t suffer from FOMO, you can benefit from these tips! Go out and live the fun, inspired, intentional life you deserve!
Jackie White has been writing about life and its ups and downs for many years. With a degree in Industrial Psychology and a life-long student of personal development she is intrigued by how each individual chooses to live their life. Jackie feels strongly that truly living your best life is imperative to attaining peace and fulfillment. SoulShine was borne of her desire to inspire and teach others to live their best life. This is her mission and her dream.