By Jackie White
Happiness - sounds simple, right? Then, why are so many people struggling to find it? If you are one of those looking for happiness, I know the way, and it begins with asking yourself a few questions.
The Science to Happiness
Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage tells us that only 10% of your long-term happiness can be found in your external world (a good job, a nice house etc..). The other 90% is based on how your brain processes the world. This means if you can be more positive in the present moment, your brain will become more resilient in handling stress, your dopamine levels will increase, ultimately resulting in feelings of happiness. To rewire your brain for happiness, you need to decide that you will see the world more positively. I am including Shawn Achor’s Ted Talk below. It is about 12 minutes long and will make you laugh out loud!
There isn’t a mystery to solve to “find happiness”. It’s not a destination, is a way of living. The deeper answer is to look within and to make the decision to be happy. It is that simple. Don’t resist the simplicity of it. You can do this! Find the good, follow your dreams, help others, be grateful, smile - a lot, laugh your butt off and make the choice to get happy!
Relinquishing the Keys and Control. An Overprotective Mom's Lessons in Letting Her Children Grow Up.
Most of us drive cars. We use them daily to get around and do life. We shuffle kids from here to there and back again, dreaming of the day they can actually drive themselves! For me, that time has come. My son has just gotten his driver’s license and now I am losing it! Not because I think he’s a poor driver, but because he is still a kid! How can a kid be expected to drive with all the crazy drivers out there? How do I know if my son isn’t going to make an impulsive mistake driving and cause an accident? My list of worries could fill this page and more, but what I have come to realize is that none of this has to do with him. It all has to do with me.
Today, I stand here before you to admit that, yes, I might be a bit of a control freak, aka an overprotective mom, but I have good reasons to be:
1. It comes with the territory of being a mom.
2. I am just protecting my kids from unsafe situations and circumstances.
3. I was raised by a control freak mom or, as I liked to call her, a worrywart.
Are there any other overprotective parents out there? I know if you are with me in this, you too do not see what the big deal is, particularly if your kids are little. I have come to realize that there is a process of letting go we go through, and, when you reach the teenage years when your child gains more autonomy, letting go becomes much more difficult for us overprotective parents.
Tell it Like It is:
I have researched a bit on this condition of overprotectiveness, control, or worry-wartness. Whatever you call it, it boils down to one thing and that is called anxiety.
Oh, I said it. This overprotective mom thing is really all about anxiety. Hey, I didn’t like to hear that either! The anxiety that something could happen to your child. The anxiety that if you make the wrong choice, your child might suffer some sort of negative impact. As a result, you become controlling. This actually works for a while because little kids need their parents to make decisions for them in the name of safety and otherwise.
However, as kids mature, they have to learn to make their own decisions. Choosing whether they want chocolate or vanilla ice cream or whether they want to wear the blue or red shirt are harmless decisions that allow children to learn to think for themselves. Letting them make these decisions is easy because usually none of the decisions are that significant. The trouble for an overprotective parent becomes more pronounced when their child comes of an age where he/she can make their own decisions on more life-impacting things like participating in bad behavior, getting poor grades, underage drinking, or learning to drive. The overprotective mom brain goes into a tizzy thinking that it might not be the wisest decision to rely on your impulsive, flighty young adult to make the right choices.
Go from Dictator to Mom-Advisor
One way to ease your transition from the dictator of all decisions is to consider advising. When the time comes where your child needs to make more of their own decisions, then you (and me) must step back to allow them to do just that. It’s hard, and it doesn’t mean you let them go cold turkey. Kids can benefit from advice garnered by life experience. This is an opportunity to go from a strong-armed attempt at controlling their every move to taking the role of a consultant where you can offer suggestions on how to make certain decisions.
Further, we cannot dismiss what is driving this need to be in control we have. That anxiety or fear of something happening to our kids. It seems easier to just keep them in a protective bubble, but alas, you know that isn’t the way. To move forward as recovering overprotective moms, we need a plan!
The Plan for Recovering Overprotective Moms
Take a deep breath. We can do this!
1. You have to acknowledge your own anxiety about this. Accept that you might feel uncomfortable, but you will have to allow your young adult to learn to make his/her own decisions.
2. You have been in control and have done a damn good job raising your child. Not only have you kept him safe, but you have also taught him how to be responsible.
3. Assess your child’s ability to make good decisions. Acknowledge what choices they have made that have been good and know the blindspots where poor decision-making was going on.
4. This phase can be the hardest part because it is time to let them fly. Depending on the child, let them make smaller, less impactful decisions at first and then work up to you stepping back and allowing them to really soar.
The bottom line here is, if you find yourself to be in the overprotective mom club, like me, it’s time to see what’s driving your behavior. Is it fear, anxiety, and worry? It can be hard to strike a balance of letting them go and keeping them safe, but sometimes you have to just let them fly. You cannot keep them in a bubble. You cannot save them from every dumb decision they might make. Remember, you were a teen once, too, and probably made some not-so-great decisions! However, you must also remember that if you have done your job well raising your child, they will likely do a good job handling the responsibility of making their own decisions.
One final thought to my overprotective, controlling, worry-wart friends: “the hardest decision a parent will ever have to make is letting a child make a decision on their own.” This is a good reminder that our job is to prepare them to have the knowledge, skills, and confidence to make the decisions that will allow them to live their best independent life! What else could we ask for?
Postscript: My son, Marshall has been driving for a few months now, and he is doing an excellent job. I couldn’t be more proud of him and of me not worrying every time he drives the car!
By Erika Fehrenbach Prell
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago.
The second best time is now.
Have you ever seen a tree removed from the ground? You probably know this but there’s a whole lot of tree under the earth that you can’t see. Like many things, however, knowing and seeing are totally different experiences. Right now, there is a house being built next door, and tree removal was a two-week source of entertainment at our house. It’s a-maz-ing that even the tiniest of trees requires significant force and energy to extract.
It all started from a tiny seed growing into these towering trees balanced by an equally impressive root system. This little seed needed a few key pieces to release it’s potential, though. A seed is just a seed until it is buried in the ground, where it can receive the nutrients it needs to grow paired with time. A towering tree does not grow overnight, rather slowly and steadily over many, many months and years, so slowly that you don’t really notice the progress. It takes time, but you will never get a sturdy tree without planting. It might take 20 years but 20 years only gets closer after you plant the seed.
Time has a funny way of getting away from us. Have you ever realized you missed an opportunity? Then, a period of time goes by and you are like...dang it...if I had only started it 6 months ago or stuck with it, I would be there by now. Regret sets in, followed by self-doubt and lack of confidence. Spoiler alert! Feelings of regret have no place in your best life journey; this will only promote negativity and limitations instead of positivity and possibility.
This tree proverb is the perfect analogy for your best life growth mindset. Instead of regret for a missed opportunity, reset that mindset to the lesson to be learned; future success hinges getting started. If you want success and growth in your future, the best time to start is now. Stop waiting for someday. Take messy action today; the first little steps in the direction of what you want. Then, show up the next day and the day after that with the same intention. So, you missed the opportunity to start 6 months ago, so what! That can’t be changed, and that wasted time is gone. All you can do is choose to start now.
Today is Earth Day, a day that typically inspires actions to make this rock we call home better. Trees will be planted. Leaves and other fall debris will be cleared to make room for new spring growth. Litter will be picked up. All in the name of renewal and growth. Seems like the perfect opportunity to do the same in your own life, DreamChaser!
Take that dream, that little seed of hope, and plant it. Nourish it every day with the little actions needed to make it grow. Give it the time it needs to progress. Stay the course and believe in yourself. Let the potential of that dream flourish into reality!
Need some planting inspiration? Here are 10 little seeds to plant in your life!
Seems simple, right? It is. Just start. That is the only way to make a dream a reality. You got this! Shine on!
If You Don’t Stand For Something, You Will Fall For Anything. How Your Personal Constitution Guides Your Life
By Jackie White
You have a personal constitution and you might not even know it. What I am talking about in plain talk is what is it that you stand for? What is important in your life, so important that you live by that “rule”?
For example, if you are someone who values adventure, you might be living a life that is sprinkled with mountain climbing, traveling, or jumping out of a plane. A desk job may feel very restraining for someone who has adventure as a core value, where the opposite may be true for someone who values stability. Some people value community and see that volunteerism is a mandatory activity they include in their life. Others may value health and wellness, and their life is fashioned around exercise and choosing healthy food choices. The choices are almost endless!
Each of us has a set of core values that make up our own personal constitution. These values make up the rules we live by. If you aren’t sure what yours are, you may find yourself feeling like you are a bit lost in life. Here’s the good news though, you likely have some values you have been unknowingly following. Let’s begin by taking a look at where these values come from.
These values come from those things in life that influence you. The good stuff and even the bad stuff in life molds our impressions on how life should work. Some of the key influencers are your parents, significant people, friends, life experiences, and/or media.
Parents: The apple doesn’t fall from the tree. Of course, our parents influence our beliefs and values. If that influence is positive, you will likely line up with many of the same values your parents have. However, if your childhood value system is one you take exception to, then likely you will work towards molding your own values based on other influences or beliefs you have grown into.
Other Significant People or Friends: We look to others when we are shaping our values, which by the way tends to start around age 10, but by age 21 are solidified. Values can change over time but likely are strongly tied to those set into place in our earlier years.
Life Experiences: Your life experiences certainly can shift your priorities and your values if your mind has been opened to something you never knew before. For example, if you visit a country with severe poverty to an extent you had never imagined, your values may shift to focus on global community efforts.
Media: The media can influence a person’s values. News, the internet, websites, movies, and music can play tapes of certain mindsets and value systems. Some good, some not so good, but nevertheless, influential.
What Does All This Mean?
Your core values are what you stand for. They are the rule book for how you conduct yourself in life. If you have never taken a few minutes to identify what your core values are, it would be worth your while. Once you know without a doubt what your core values are, making decisions about your life becomes much easier. As well, if you have children, you are imparting your values to them whether you know it or not. Therefore, it is critical you know your core values and identify how effectively you are demonstrating them for your children.
Children and Core Values
One great way to bring your family closer is through core values. When your family lives by a core value such as service, you can volunteer together to make your community better. If one of your core values as a family is play, then spending time together having fun and being playful should be part of who your family is. Again, it is a guidepost to define who you are individually but also as a family. Some families even proclaim statements like “We are the Smith Family and we are hard workers.” It’s up to you to think about how you might want to infuse active use of core values in your family’s life.
As you can see looking at what people stand for is an interesting archeological dig. Each person has their own constitution of how they should be living their lives. Upon examining what you find meaningful in life, you can begin to design the life of your dreams.
For a list of core values go to FindYourSoulShine.com/Resources
By Jackie White
Hello Spring! I love Spring! It is a time for renewal. It’s a time for hope and a fresh start. It also is a time when many of us start our spring cleaning. If you are anything like me, it’s not the cleaning so much that I need to attend to, it’s the clutter! The clutter brings me down, yet I am just as guilty as the rest of my family in adding to its hold it has on our home. So, this year I am doing something different. I am proclaiming this year that I will do spring decluttering!
I am going to declutter with the motive being not only a clean and organized home, but also a space that will promote peace, calm, and be a soft place to fall at the end of the day. Think about that for a minute. What would that mean to you if your home was your little spot of peace on Earth? Did I hear a collective sigh of relief or was that just me? I would love to come home to a place where I am not dealing with moving piles or running a list of to-do’s through my brain. I am on a mission to tackle this problem and I have researched why this is so important to attend to.
Benefits of Decluttering Your Home
Now that you are on board with this whole spring decluttering, let’s hop to it! The first thing to realize is that your house didn’t get this way in one day and it won’t be undone in one day. To do this without getting crazy dedicate 10 minutes a day to decluttering certain areas. I suggest choosing the least likely area to get re-cluttered immediately. I know at my house just as soon as a surface is cleaned off someone moves their crap right in and undoes what I just did. That is very demotivating. If I have a spot, a cupboard, somewhere that is staying nice without the attack from my family, I feel accomplished. Eventually you have to move into the most frequently used spaces and that’s when you have a talk with the family about keeping things nice.
For those of you who may want to make a dent faster, go for the 40 bags in 40 days. Commit to filling a bag with at least 40 unwanted items a day for a few weeks. This decluttering system works great with kids too. Tell them they have 15 minutes (set a timer) and they have to get rid of 40 items in their bag.
Take Action Daily:
No matter what process you use to declutter, take action daily with a master checklist. This will ensure you get through all of your rooms without dragging on the process forever.
To do a total refresh, empty your room out and only put back what really makes you happy. Everything else has got to go. You can donate, give it away, or trash it, but don’t set it down for further review. It will become clutter again! Look at your room as if you were a new buyer of your home. How can you envision it? Ooo! That’s kind of exciting!
The best resource I have found so far is FlyLady.Net. She has decluttering and cleaning schedules and processes to follow that are straightforward. Other books that have been helpful are The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo or The Minimalist Home by Joshua Becker.
Wishing you the most fab spring season decluttering and freeing yourself from the crap that’s been weighing you down!
By Erika Fehrenbach Prell
It’s coming. It’s not here yet, but I know it’s coming. The era when kids start in with why. Why do I need to go to bed? So you can rest. Why do I need to rest? Because your body needs it. Why does my body need it? Because you need to recharge. Why do I need to recharge? Because that is how your body was designed. Why was my body designed that way? Because…because...because....
If you have ever hung out with a kid in the 3 to 6 year old range, you feel me on this one. I have no idea where the ultimate answer ends in your house, but our core answers were Target, Menards, or God. Now that Ethan is 12 and quickly approaching the “parents are dumb” age and Liam is 9 and moved on to the “how” stage, I reminisce with fondness on the why stage of yore. Circle back in a few months when Lucy has entered it, however, and see if I feel the same; I vaguely recall it being persistently relentless.
This got me thinking, though, as these simple kid lessons seem to do. (Seriously, kids are the best life coaches, if you just take a moment to listen.) This barrage of why until you narrow it down to the simplest form reminded me of a technique I had heard about. Heard about is the key, not actually tried. It took but a quick Google search to uncover it - the 7 Levels Deep Exercise by Dean Graziosi from his book Millionaire Success Habits. It did have me wondering which kid in his life tipped him off on this exercise; add asking him that question on my Big Life To-Do List.
Basically, this super simple but powerful exercise helps you discover your why behind a specific goal. Finding the why behind whatever you hope to accomplish is the ultimate in motivation. Knowing your why uncovers the real driving force behind what you want to accomplish. Having this knowledge helps you feel more purposeful in your journey. Feeling purposeful leads to feeling fulfilled which leads to feelings of positivity and joy which motivates you to continue moving towards that goal. Talk about a motivating cycle of awesome!
And, it centers around three little letters, one small word that linked together yields the power to unlock your limitless potential: W - H - Y.
You think I’m crazy, right? Blowing this out of proportion? I see you, Boo. That was exactly how I felt. I knew the importance of finding my why but I underestimated the power of this simple exercise. I kept thinking it was too simple to be that profound. Are you picking up the sarcasm that is dripping from that statement? I hope so.
Let me be real, DreamChaser. I literally tried this exercise 3 weeks ago when I got the idea for this blog. Three weeks ago. (We are all works in progress...never forget that!) I had heard of the activity but had never actually done the activity...I have no great excuse other than I probably thought I knew better. Here’s a promise to you, my dear DreamChasers...I will never recommend something to you that I don’t think is valid, worthwhile, or may serve you. And to know that means I need to try it! The universe added a little extra kick in the try it department when I noticed the second search result was a link to Jenna Kutcher’s blog (jennakutcherblog.com/7levelsdeep/), who I happen to adore as an entrepreneur, fellow Midwesterner, and Hawaii lover. Fine, universe, fine! I will try this “silly” 7 Levels Deep exercise...all in the name of research for the DreamChasers! (I was channeling my inner Avenger...I do have a flair for the dramatic, at least in my internal monologue.)
What did I find? It’s as good as promised, DreamChaser. Three little letters, one small word, linked together to unlock your potential: W - H - Y. I promise you this is a game changer and worth every second of your time. Check it out here → 7levelsdeep.com
We want to hear how it worked for you so drop us a line! Shine on!
Erika Fehrenbach Prell
Let’s get something clear, DreamChasers. Happiness is one of the most misunderstood emotions in our lives. And, because it is so misunderstood, the full potential of happiness is underutilized. I will be the first to admit that I am guilty of this, and I didn’t even realize it until I started being more intentional in my day-to-day life.
Here’s the mistake I was making. Waiting for happiness to happen in my life instead of bringing the happiness intentionally into my life. It’s a slight difference but huge. Most of the time, we wait for happiness to happen to us with special events like birthdays or anniversaries or plans like vacations or getting together with friends. Those are happy things, don’t get me wrong, but they are a small fraction of our lives. You, and I, deserve to be happy every day, not just when happiness stumbles into our day-to-day.
Here’s the game changing shift that is so simple to make. Decide to bring more happiness into your life. This requires only 2 ingredients...intentionality and mindfulness. Look at your everyday life. I am willing to bet you can find habits or behaviors you do routinely, things you infused into your daily routine because you enjoy them. They make you happy! But, you are mindlessly doing them, so it doesn’t boost your happy factor.
Since an example often helps, here are my 7 simple daily actions that boost my happiness factor:
That was nothing earth shattering, right? That’s the point. These are habits and actions I do in my life of things I enjoy. They totally boost my happy factor with a little intentional mindfulness that I do these things because they make me happy. That is all I did differently! Instead of mindlessly sipping that coffee, I take a quick second to savor that first sip and, BAM! Happiness booster ignited!
Now, it’s your turn, DreamChaser! I guarantee you are already doing things every day that are potential happiness boosters. Take a few moments to make your own happy life booster list. Once you have this list, all you have to do is bring on the intentional and mindfulness! Starting tomorrow, because I trust you will not want to wait to up the happy factor, keep that list at hand. When you are about to perform one of the items on your happy life booster list, pause. Take a few seconds to become mindful of the action you are about to perform. Remind yourself how happy you feel when you get to (fill in the blank...drink coffee, go for a walk, read a book, take a shower). Then, enjoy the boost!
Here’s to being more happy every day! Shine on!
By Jackie White
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Have you ever heard that saying before? I love a quote that cuts right to the point! Many of us choose to stay tight in our bud. You may ask what is your bud?
Your comfort zone
Your same ol’ same ol’
Most of us just remain there until we are forced to do something different. Why? Because doing something different means risk. Risk gets a bad rap a lot of the time. It is seen as being dangerous, taking a chance, and can be scary. Many of us would rather avoid fear than voluntarily step into it.
Let me ask you this, what if you just choose to accept risk as only a chance to blossom into the person you were meant to be? What if you made that choice before pain sets in and makes you change?
Choose to Blossom
Choose to Blossom
What if you decided to be proactive, face your fears, and blossom? This way, it is under your control, not the control of circumstances that have put the squeeze on you. Let’s take a look at some areas of life where we might be stuck in our bud and how making the choice to blossom before pain forces you to change makes the difference.
Health and Wellness
Are there some health and wellness choices you probably should be making? Are you eating crappy foods that don’t nourish your body? Are you not moving your body or exercising it routinely? Have you been avoiding a doctor visit because you are fearful of what you might hear?
Staying in your bud: This means you are a sitting duck. You are waiting for a health issue to occur to force you to make healthier choices.
Choosing to blossom: Choose to change your health habits before you have a serious medical condition like a heart attack or diabetes. This feels like a lot of pain for the benefit of downing a few more pans of brownies and pizza pies.
Have you been tending to your relationships as you should? Is there someone you need to reach out to or have a conversation with?
Staying in your bud: You can continue to ignore the issue and drift further apart from a meaningful person in your life or live with unresolved issues that are eating at you. These feelings of loss or uneasiness may sit with you for years. Are you willing to do that?
Choosing to blossom: You can take the initiative to resolve or just reach out to the person with whom you need to mend fences. The conversation may be difficult, but the result could fix the relationship or at least create closure for you. Wouldn’t that ultimately feel better?
Have you been stagnant in your career? Have you been wanting to do something different but are afraid to make the change?
Staying in your bud: You can continue to do the same job day after day depositing your paycheck but receiving little else from your employment for the rest of your life.
Choosing to blossom: You could prepare for the next promotion and strategically set yourself up as the best candidate. You could choose to find a job that better suits you offering more benefits than just a paycheck. Each day wouldn’t feel like a grind. It might even feel rewarding and meaningful.
Do you feel something is missing? Do you feel like you yearn for more? Are you the person you want to be?
Staying in your bud: You can stay right where you are today. If that idea makes you uncomfortable, then you should consider this your invitation to step into change.
Choosing to blossom: If you are tired of not living the life you so desire, then what could you do today to work towards that? Every small step towards that life will feel like progress and wouldn’t that feel good?
How to Blossom
Just like any beautiful flower, there are few things you need to do to blossom:
1. Plant the seed of possibilities!
2. Choose the area or areas that you feel stuck or where your growth is stunted.
3. Consider all the options by brainstorming a list of outcomes you’d like to see in those areas.
4. Shift your mindset to one of being proactive and expecting positive results.
5. Fertilize the soil by sprinkling in a bit of knowing that you are worth it!
6. Adopt the mantra that you deserve to live the life you desire!
7. Face any fears you have with the remedy of your new mindset and mantra!
8. Feed your desires by taking regular action towards achieving your new results.
9. Soak in the change as it is renewing your life possibilities!
10. Get ready to blossom, you beautiful flower, you!
Spring is a time of renewal for so many things, maybe it’s a time for you to renew and blossom into the life you have always wanted. Along with renewal comes shedding the past and that can be a good thing. You don’t have to ditch everything, but pick and choose those areas that you feel need to change. You will feel it in your gut and you will know. I invite you to make this season the beginning of breaking out of your bud and finally opening up yourself to fully blossom into that person you were always meant to be.
By Erika Fehrenbach Prell
Pancake Day?!? This awesome holiday featuring the ultimate breakfast fare is put on by IHOP (International House of Pancake) on February 16. Don’t fret over missing it; due to good ole Captain Covid, it will actually be celebrated the entire month of April.
The. Entire. Month. Of. April. Best news I’ve heard in a while, ‘cause, who doesn’t love a pancake?!? That’s joy, right there, DreamChasers.
And, what pairs with the pancake? Yeah, yeah, yeah, you can get all creative with all the fruit and whipped cream. But, I’m your basic pancake lover, DreamChaser, so I’m talking maple syrup. Can you imagine pancakes without it?!? It would be devastating...and that is where our story is leading to what will go down in infamy as the Great Pancake Petition of 2021. (Okay, this is technically all about syrup but that doesn’t have as fun of a ring to it.)
I live in Altoona, WI, and my 3rd grader, Liam, has fortunately had in person school 4 days per week this entire school year. One of the concessions was that the kids eat lunch in their classrooms. Here’s where the scandal begins. Breakfast items for lunch are super popular among the elementary school kids. This year, however, the Altoona kids have not been getting syrup to put on their pancakes and french toast sticks. (I told you this was devastating news.) Finally fed up and ready to take action, a few determined 3rd grade girls started a petition explaining why they needed syrup with these items and this petition, created on one of those large post-it note type papers designed for presentations, was passed from 3rd grade classroom to classroom for the kids to sign.
How stinking cute is this?!?
Seriously, though, this really got me to thinking. It was a reminder that kids are little sponges, taking everything in all the time, watching and learning. There have been plenty of demonstrations of protesting in recent months, right? This made me realize what a fantastic opportunity to discuss topics like freedom of speech, standing up for what you believe in, and how to conduct this in a peaceful, respectful way. School-age kids are not too young for these big topics, but, admittedly, I would speak differently to my 3rd grader than I would to my 7th grader.
My next thought was how awesome it was these kids were doing something about an issue. Instead of complaining or just taking it, they took action. The petition was well thought out and required the need to get buy-in from the other classrooms. (Although, with syrup at stake, I am sure it was a fairly easy argument.) This immediately transitioned to my final thought, the real stunner. When was the last time I took action on something I felt strongly about? The last time I stood up for something I really believed in? Where I took action instead of just talking or thinking about it? Whoa. Really great food for thought.
Altoona Class of 2030, you have a bright future ahead. Keep that fierceness and fighting spirit. Keep changing the world, one pancake petition at a time. You are an inspiration to your parents as you remind us grown ups to look for solutions and act on them while being respectful and courageous, instead of only thinking or complaining.
According to Liam, if the pancake petition works, he’s going after the return of ranch for the chicken strips. It’s getting real over here in the ‘Toon, folks!
Jackie White has been writing about life and its ups and downs for many years. With a degree in Industrial Psychology and a life-long student of personal development she is intrigued by how each individual chooses to live their life. Jackie feels strongly that truly living your best life is imperative to attaining peace and fulfillment. SoulShine was borne of her desire to inspire and teach others to live their best life. This is her mission and her dream.